Old & Sexual --- Growing Up

It was yesterday, I believe, me and my two best friends here at school were sitting around having a conversation like something out of a college based "Sex & The City" type of scene when I stopped and noted on top of the conclusion of our conversation that "We are getting old... & sexual" It was then of course shattered with an outburst of laughter like us girls usually do, but then we discussed that, goddamn I'm right.
It's gotten to the point in my life where I realize I'm growing up, and find myself in more adult situations. For example when Kayla, Ashley and I were discussing certain romantic situations (non sexual) it wasn't like our last years conversations about "Oh my god he's so hot" or "Eh I don't know I'd rather just party". Our standards of which we judge whether or not things will work with a guy have raised to more mature levels. I.E. whether their jealous tendencies are dealable, or intolerable. (thats not directed specifically to anyone so stop it.) But basically it's finally hit me, in order to have a decent and fully functional relationship several things must happen. First, one must identify those little things that you dont like about a person, and decide if its something you can learn to love. You cannot be with someone until you learn to love their flaws. Second of all, you have got to establish a common ground, like make sure that the strong important points like trust, jealousy, and interests are somewhat aligned with one anothers ideas about each. And third off, establish ON YOUR OWN, not by asking a friend what they think, if there is a/ or chance of a legitimate sexual AND emotional connection. As shallow as it may sound, sex is what keeps a relationship healthy, but too much can distract from building an emotional connection keep in mind.
Unfortunatley its things like these that came to me through trial and error. I've hurt people, and been hurt by people in the process. But after learning all of this, and growing from it, I've become what me and my friends like to call old & sexual.