You don't meant it...

I wish I could say I had some great story that inspired this train of thought that I'm about to spill out, but I guess some things in life can't be prefaced, you just kinda trip over things. I'm a thinker, a dreamer, and a lover. So as I was sitting alone thinking about dreams and love and such I realized something. Over and over again I see friends getting hurt, accusing their past significant others of lying and saying "those three words" when they never meant it. C'mon you know you've either witnessed or been in this position yourself... Everyone has or will be at one point. I think that such an accusation cannot be made. I mean there are a few exceptions but here's what I mean. At this age (20) most people have had a legitimate relationship. And sometimes at this age people get to the point where they say those words. But then months later... it changes. Hate arises. Fights break out. And accusations like "you lied to me" just splurge out. The truth is that the person probably wasn't lying. No person ever stays the same. We're never the same person for more than oh say 5 years. We change, grow and develop into who we really are over the years, and find it hard to sustain. Well if this is the case, then how can our feelings stay the same about everyone in our lives, our opinions and our views on everything in our lives change, so something that could be the truth one year, could be the opposite the next. I mean there are those few manipulative people who do use those words to get what they want, but honestly I have more faith than to believe thats anymore than 10% of the population. We all have the ability to change, to fall in, and to fall out of love. So it kind of makes me wonder... How does marraige work? I'm not doubting all marraiges, it just gets me thinking that marraiges that do last are not only incredible but incredibly lucky. Because those two people could not have stayed the same for years and years... But with fate and luck at their sides their personalities and spirits changed individually but still remained compatible. How amazing is that? Another note I'd like to add onto the topic of saying "I love you" and not meaning it is that well honestly how can you tell someone they don't mean it, if everyone's definition seems to be different? How can you tell someone what they do and don't feel? I've made these mistakes in the past, I'll be honest. I've told my ex('s) that they were total jerks for lying to me... But you know what... I changed... I grew... and now I understand. I'm sorry. I didn't mean it.