Limiting Yourself

As many of you may know one of my most dominant beliefs is that with strength anything is possible. I believe that strength can indeed give you wings. Figuratively of course. I'm sure you've all heard the stories of mothers lifting cars off of their crushed children with their bare hands due to adrenyline rushes and such. Well have you ever considered if that kind of strength can apply elsewhere, like besides physically? Day in and day out I hear people say I can't and I couldn't and its not possible. Well honestly, I don't think thats the case. I admit, I'm guilty of saying all those things, but I most likely am not being honest with the person in which I am saying it to as well as myself. I was discussing relationships with a co-worker recently and he had said to me that if a man really loves you he can and will move mountains for you. It's true, and that applies to anything. When asking people why they don't chase their dreams and everyone says "I can't" or "It's impossible... it's unrealistic" I get upset. Its really dissapointing that we doubt ourselves and leave ourselves very little room for achievment. We really do limit ourselves by saying that one crippling phrase ("I can't") If a mother can lift a car to save her child, why can't we get that same adrenyline rush to chase our dreams, or love our significant others the way they deserve to be loved. We can all move mountains and we can all walk on water. It's just sad that we rely on adrenlyine and motivation from others to make us do so. Has our society become so brain washed that we really believe nothing is possible without fame, money, and rediculous connections. How many Cinderella stories spark up in the newspapers and magazines nowadays? Those people in those stories can just like anyone else... it's just a matter of getting off your ass and doing it. Pardon me if that wasn't exactly eloquent, but it angers me to see talent and potential drown out. It sucks to see friends who could really accell and do good in our society let his circumstances bring him down and make him think he can't. It upsets me to see criminals go back in the system because they say they can't adapt to a new lifestyle. It really upsets me to see people take their own lives because they think they can't hold on anymore... The only thing that limits your ability is you. So may strength give you wings... And may love, passion & inspiration make you move mountains... just because you can.

Never Forget.

Sometimes I sit here and wonder about the thoughtless things people say. The words of advice that are thrown out without thought or care, mostly because they are cliche and easy to use. The quote that bites me a little harder each time I read it is "The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; you can't go forward in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.”
I'm honestly quite sick of people telling me to let go of my past, and just forget about it, and that if I do so I will be okay.
I wonder if anyone has ever really thought about what they were saying...
I know its not good to incessantly obsess over the past, but to completely forget about it in order to have the "brightest future" would be completely arrogant. Forgetting your past especially the failures and heartaches is the worst thing you can do to yourself. If you forget, how many more times will you fail, how many more times will your heart be wrenched. You learn from your past. You hurt from it to help yourself. You would not be who you are today without remembering your failures. You would rarely if ever accel without your past there to guide you. I've screwed up royally several times in my life, and I'd like to consider myself a wise and well rounded person now because of it. If I had forgiven myself and forgotten what I did to not only myself but others I would be a train wrecked nobody stuck in a small town ruining lives left and right. Everytime I get slightly upset thinking about the past and the things that have happend it never fails that a friend comes along and says "It's the past just forget about it and you'll be fine..." Quite frankly friends... if I forget about it I'll be back at square one. So I guess what I'm getting at after this perpetual rant is that the brightest future will always be based on a remembered and learned from past. Dwelling drags. Remembering rebuilds. Because in the end forgetting is losing a piece of yourself.