Lesson Learned

So thick headed Ms. Sunshine finally got a point. Ben always tells me that relationships arent supposed to be perfect. Its not normal to be perfect. There should be conflict at times, otherwise things aren't right. I never really understood that until last night when talking with one of my friends, Cinnamon (yes that is her name). We were discussing our current situations and love lifes, and the issue of intimacy in relationships fading came up. Cinnamon said to me somethin among the lines of "Don't they realize that the honeymoon doesn't have to end?" And I responded with something like "Well we don't want the honeymoon to end, but sometime it has to. Its not a one way ticket to paradise all the time. You have to fly back to work, because every relationship requires work." ... Then all of a sudden DING, light dawns on marble head. This is what Ben has been saying to me all along. Relationships are not effortless, we can't just let our emotions blow in the wind, put everything on the back burner. We have to let it simmer and stir it. Give it a little bit of love, communication, effort. I often find myself getting upset because love hasn't been easy, its been an up and down battle. And it's so naive of me to think that I could just let it flow, without a fight, and have a successful relationship. So I guess this goes hand in hand with my new and improved "optimism", if I just keep a stiff upper lip and a light hearted smile through the battle, its just a matter of whether or not love lets me make it through the battle, and if fate has plans for me in that certain relationship. I can no longer allow myself to get upset by the fact that I need to try to maintain a successful relationship, because thats how it should be. I mean I'm not saying I need to constantly fight to keep a relationship from falling off the deep end, but I can't just let it float off to sea. So from now on it's smooth sailing on a rough sea, through the calm of the storm and the thrashing of the waves. Because love is worth the effort, as well as it needs it.